31 March 2010

Sympathetic vs Empathetic

Let's just say.. I read a lot of blogs.
Just a little bit ago I read one about a little girl named Layla Grace Marsh who was battling Stage 4 Neuroblastoma cancer. Now, if my english teacher is reading this, I know I'm supposed to capitalize cancer but I can't. It doesn't deserve to be recognized in that way.

This little girl was born on November 26, 2007. When they found out Layla Grace was SIXTEEN MONTHS OLD! They thought she had an ear infection and they got an urgent message from the doctor telling the Marsh parents into the ER. This is straight from their blog: "Layla has a massive cancerous tumor (Stage 4 Neuroblastoma) in her abdomen. It extends from above her left kidney, around her side, over her belly and wraps around her aorta. In addition, the cancer is in her bone marrow."  There are twelve pages (with three blogs each) of blogs, so I haven't got the chance to read everything but at one point they were told that they had 2 weeks left with their precious baby. It turned out to be 3 months later when God called her name. Her parents wanted her to go running to Him. Just looking at pictures, you can tell she was miserable! Angels took her hand on March 19, 2010 and lead her to His gates.
I have the biggest lump in my throat right now. Part of that lump is from holding back tears, part of that lump is from being sympathetic. I CANNOT imagine how her parents handled the whole thing. I do know from the blogs, that they prayed and cried and prayed some more. Which is all they could do. It's times like these that we forget to pray, or intentionally don't pray. (I'm getting off subject)

Empathy, according to dictionary.com,, is 'Identification with and understanding of another's situation, feelings, and motives.'
Sympathy, according to dictionary.com, is 'Harmony of or agreement in feeling, as between persons or on the part of one person with respect to another.'

You all know how eager I am to have kids. I just can't wait! And I pray to God that all I ever have for this family is sympathy. I know many parents that have lost their child, because I have lost a lot of friends. I know I shouldn't say "lost" but I am for now. Of all (5) friends that I have lost, at a young age, it would be easy for me to pull myself together and never think of them again until I am able to give them a hug in Heaven. But the parents can't, even if they try. The mom carried their baby and helped them grow for 9 months. The dad anxiously awaited the arrival of that baby and helped it grow as soon as he laid eyes on it. All of the sudden your whole life revolves around one heart. It's so important to remember everyone that God calls upon.

My first experience of losing a friend was September 22, 2004. My 5th grade boyfriend, Taylor Bradbury, passed away in a car accident. I'll never forget when I found out. He was 14.
Second experience was 2 months later on November 9, 2004. My middle school best friend's sister Lexi Crittenden, passed away in a house fire. I will never forget that whole day. She was 13.
Third experience was 3 months later on February 13, 2005. My boyfriend in the 9th grade, Nick Bittinger, passed away in a car accident. I'll never forget when I found out. He was 17.
I will tell the stories of finding out, later. This is getting pretty lengthy anyways...

I just want everyone to think back to when they lost a friend.. have you forgotten about them? No matter how long ago it was their families still grieve.
So my prayer request tonight is for you to think of someone that you have lost and pray for their family.

Welcome Spring!!

Since none of you can be here with me I'll describe the scenario-
WallE is in his favorite spot- laying in front of the the front door staring out the window. ALL of the windows are open, the wind is blowing, the sun is shining, and the smell of paint is in the air! That's right! I got out the paint that Rising View left for us and did some touch up work! It was MUCH needed! The bottom of the walls had so many scuff marks, the rail was very dirty and the back door frame was apparently used as a handle many times! I did it all by myself too! "Mr. Sherwin Williams" didn't help! He was sure to let me know that I better have his paint brush CLEAN when I was done! (rolling my eyes)

I LOVE this weather right now!! The grass turning green is what I look forward to every year! More so now that we have grass! A year ago, we didn't have any grass for a while, until they laid sod. Even when I'm at work and EVERYONE that I ring out talks about how nice it is outside, I still love the weather. I like just looking outside and seeing the sunshine!

We are getting more and more antsy for our next visit home! It's been a while since we've been home! I'm pretty sure this is the longest we've went without a visit!
I'm especially missing home because on Easter Sunday I'm going to be alone!  Jeremy has to work weekends in April. Last year, my friend Amanda and her husband Adam and her mom and brother all came over for lunch. He is deployed and she went back home to Indiana so I'm all alone this year.

Before I go to bed I read a couple chapters of Chicken Soup for the Soul; Devotional Stories for Women. I love it! It is really opening my eyes to things. I highly suggest it!

Prayer requests-
All the men and women serving in the military. More specifically Jeremy and Donald
All the families of fallen soldiers/airmen that have to deal with picketers. (story)
All those that are lost spiritually

25 March 2010

Thoughtless Thursday

I'm starting a new thing.
Every Thursday I'm going to post just a picture or just a video, no words.
Get it?.. thoughtless..

19 March 2010


Here are the pictures of our cupcakes! My friend, Christie, and I made them. They were so much fun to make! We had extras so I brought them to Jeremy at work for everyone and they asked if they were gay pride cupcakes... :( NO!! They aren't gay pride cupcakes! That's just the order you have to go in, or the colors won't look as good! ..trust me :P

This is the outside!! Before I dug in to the yummy goodness!

This is the cupcake in the middle!

This one was toward the end of the batch... I didn't do a very good job of distributing the batter so we had more of some colors :P

I do hope our family is reading our blog! Leave me some comments people!!! :D I would love to know your thoughts on our life! haha
Love you all!!!

Please pray for all of our military men and women! That the deployed will get to come home to their family's and the not-deployed aren't taking being home for granted!

15 March 2010


I am so happy tonight!!! I got home from a pretty mellow, nothing-exciting day at work, I let WallE out and he goes sprinting across the street (like always) because he knows we're going to check the mail (don't worry, I stop him so I can look for cars) and guess what was in there.... [drum roll] MY CERTIFICATE!!! I can now officially start my search for a Dental Assistant job!!! I have the next 2 days off and I'm job searching like crazy!! I have a list of ALL the close dental offices (some are not close but that's life) and I'm going to put my GPS to full use tomorrow! :) Jeremy was on top of it when I called him and told me to email him my resume and he printed it off for me! :D Love him! Now that will save me time tomorrow, instead of going to the library and printing off a ton of copies.

I am going to ENJOY my 2 days off, well because this is my weekend and I don't have another day off until next Tuesday. I am going to make cupcakes and deliver them to friends! They are going to be so cute! I'll share the recipe..


I'm so excited!

Please pray for Donald, being safe in Iraq!
And just throw me in to your prayer list for my job search! That someone will give me the chance since I have no experience..

Thanks! Love you all!!! :)

11 March 2010

deep breath

I have to take a deep breath tonight. I joined a facebook group called "You know you're an Air Force wife when..." One of the discussion posts had this 'poem' in it. My deep breath is to keep the tears from falling.

Military Wives have a common bond:
The Military Wife has a husband unlike other husbands; his commitment is unique.
He doesn't have a 'JOB'
He has a 'MISSION' that he can't just decide to quit...
He's on-call for his country 24/7.
But for her, he's the most unreliable guy in town!
His language is foreign
And so, a Military Wife is a translator for her family and his.
She is the long- distance link to keep them informed;
the glue that holds them together.

A Military Wife has her moments:
She wants to wring his neck;
Dye his uniform pink;
Refuse to move to Siberia;
But she pulls herself together.
Give her a few days,
A travel brochure,
A long hot bath,
A pledge to the flag,
A wedding picture,
And she goes.
She packs.
She moves.
She follows.

What for?
How come?
You may think it is because she has lost her mind.
But actually it is because she has lost her heart.
It was stolen from her by a man,
Who puts duty first,
Who longs to deploy,
Who salutes the flag,
And whose boots in the doorway remind her that as long as he is her Military Husband,
She will remain his military wife.
And would have it no other way.

I love the part that says that he's the most unreliable guy in town! It's true but not horrible, it's just another one of those things we learn to deal with! When he went to Las Vegas he didn't have an official come home date! Everyone else has the exact moment that their husband should be pulling in the driveway from work, I listen for landing planes..
Their language is foreign... let's just say that Jeremy "tests" me on the acronyms that I should know. And what each rank on the shoulder is.
What they say about dyeing his uniform pink.. SO true!! I just think it would be SO funny! But obviously he wouldn't go to work in a pink uniform so he would have to get a new uniform so he would go spend more money.. so I decide not to! :P
Wedding pictures make it all better! I look at them, cry a little, put them back and wonder how long it will be until I am packing them up to move again.
I wish the boots in the doorway part wasn't true... but it IS! Believe me, I trip over those big ol' things every day!
One part they forgot was that when they are gone whether it is for a TDY (temporary duty) or a deployment they always come home and trash the house! When J was in Vegas for 2 weeks I had a PERFECT house! It was awesome!! He came home and his suitcases sat in the living room for a couple days, then I finally picked up the big one but the little one stayed for a while longer. So did all the stuff he dug out of his bags to show me. As long as we get our husbands back and a souvenir, we'll put up with it!

Please pray for every single military member tonight. Pray that each new wife has the strength to put up with it all, with a smile.

07 March 2010

Babysitting adventure!

Yesterday I got to babysit Mr. Brennen Vickers!! His daddy and Jeremy work together. I'm not sure how old he is.. I'm going to say 3 months or so. His jean size was 0-3 months so around that. He is so cute!! And it doesn't take much to make him smile! :) He even smiled when I wiped his mouth! I'm guessing mommy does something funny when she wipes his mouth LOL He is a baby that LOVES attention. And I got the impression that Linsay (mommy) puts him in one of those carriers that you see people use at the zoo (not a sling) alot. He likes to be held right there and he just likes to be held, and not while you're sitting down! But I knew that he loves to watch the ceiling fan so that was helpful while I was eating supper! Jeremy was holding him (BELIEVE IT OR NOT) while I got supper and he fell asleep when I was getting his bottle, so as soon as I was done eating Jeremy handed him over (Yea.. it didn't last long) and I was telling Jeremy to close the door so that when Linsay and Ricky came home WallE wouldn't bark and wake Brennen up.. but of course I woke him up when I said "Jeremy".
He was a great baby! He got fussy when he needed his diaper changed and when he wanted to watch the ceiling fan! He was pretty easy! I think that little 4 (or so) hour adventure didn't help my arguement to have kids any time soon! Jeremy got mad when he was trying to watch a movie and Brennen was crying ha! I'm like oh great! He is soo not ready... And he didn't even do anything to help!! I'm the one that got his bottles ready. I'm the one that held him (except for Jeremy's 5 minute helping hand) and I'm the one that changed him! I just sigh! haha Jeremy is in for a ride (in 2 or 3 years of course!) Gotta love him! Of course babysitting is totally different than having your own kids because you know what works for them and you have all those gadgets to keep them busy while you step away!

I worked yesterday from 9-4 and started babysitting at 5:15. So I couldn't get my workout in yesterday. Today is day 7 and it says to either rest or do the stretch DVD. So I guess instead of resting or stretching I'm going to be doing yesterday's workout!

I don't think I have any other exciting news.. I do want to share my sister-in-laws blog though. My neice and nephew are SOO funny! I'll share one story- while Mandy was writing her blog Braeden came downstairs, when they were supposed to be sleeping, and was upset because "sissy doesn't love me"! They are best friends! She always posts pictures of them sleeping together or doing stuff together! Here is my favorite picture of them!

And this one is another example of them being besties!

They were posing for daddy!

Which brings me to my prayer requests-
  • Please pray for Donald, getting through his classes and getting to Iraq safely (kind of an oximoron!)
  • Please pray for everyone that is sick.. including Uncle Doug and myself. I actually got a full nights sleep last night without waking up and coughing for 30 minutes!
  • Please pray for my Aunt Sandra.. she is in a 26.2 mile marathon. At this exact moment she has about 12 miles left and has a big blister and gave her electrolyte tab to someone that had a cramped up leg! She also has a list on her arm.. she is praying for someone at every mile! She has such a big heart!

02 March 2010

"I guess that's what we signed up for right?!"

Well I decided to start this blog so that family can keep up with us! I have been missing family alot lately! Hoping that everyone misses us too... here it goes!

When Jeremy told me that we were going to be stationed in Nebraska (over the phone) I think we both made the same face (squishy). But the more I thought about it, the more I liked it. We were going to SIX hours away from our family. That's good and bad! Good because it's our first base and so when we get homesick we can come home for the weekend. Bad because it's Nebraska. But the good outweighed the bad and we moved with a smile!

Two days after we got here it snowed EIGHT inches!! Yikes! We knew it was going to be interesting! Summer was great, fall was nice but winter was NOT fun! It snowed ALOT and the roads were VERY icey! But the sun has been shining for the past few days and that means SPRING IS COMING!! I can't wait! Spring them summer!

And not to be the bearer of bad news, or to jinx us, but orders come out this month! Last month there was a posting of bases that needed people, so they put in for where they wanted to go and if they get "accepted" they will find out this month! We are hoping to go somewhere else. We were excited for the military life so we could travel! Nebraska wasn't exactly our dream vacation! He can still get orders at any time, they will just be unexpected (which is fine too!!)

Lately not much has been going on. Jeremy has a 24/7/365 job so he always has weird hours. Currently he is working 3-11. Which isn't bad.. until I get a real job (with real hours) then I won't ever see him! If I have to work at 8 I'll be in bed by 11 and gone before he wakes up :( But I guess that's what we signed up for right?! (You'll probably hear that alot in my blog)

We are starting a new work out! It's called P90X! We have heard very good reviews about it, and when I won it in an online sweepstake.. we were SO excited to get started! Of course then I got sick for 2 weeks (nothing serious just a bad combo of sinus' and a cold). Jeremy started last week but I finally got to start yesterday! I am pretty sore but sticking with it, and I'm so proud of Jeremy for being good and sticking with it! He hasn't had a diet pepsi in days!!!!! So the countdown in on!! 89 more days and I'll be looking great and 84 more for Jeremy!! :)

I have finished my schooling, but STILL haven't received my certificate so I can't start looking for a job. So I guess I don't have to worry about a real job just yet. It's getting frustrating and I make lots of phone calls about it but it's a goose chase. So please keep that in your prayers!

And by the way... HAPPY BIRTHDAY ROMAN!! Jeremy can't believe you're FIVE!! WOO HOO!!

And I guess I will end my blogs with my prayer requests! Thanks for joining me family!! We love you all!!

Please keep in your prayers:
  • Grandpa Dunbar and his back.. taking toooo long for recovery! And Grandma Gina that she can keep up with taking care of him! :)
  • Donald (my oldest brother) and his family... he left for his THIRD deployment on Sunday. Luckily this one is only for 7 months and not 15!!

Sorry if I forgot anything, I'm trying to focus but while I'm typing this I'm watching the drama-filled Grey's Anatomy lol
And sorry if this is a boring blog, it will be more useful when we have kids and we can post funny stories and pictures! I'm just starting it now so we can keep in touch with everyone now and look back later!